Women don't sleep with "Nice Guys''

Why don’t women date nice guys?

Nice guys are…just that. They make women feel safe to be around.

Nice guys create comfort, and this becomes the predominant feeling in the relationship. While women like to have these men as friends, they seldom choose nice guys for romance. Why? Because ‘’niceness’’ doesn’t create desire, and desire is a core ingredient in a sexual relationship. Desire is what separates ‘‘friend’’ from ‘’lover’’.

Of course, no nice traits at all isn’t good either. These guys are the stereotypical ‘’bad boys’’, and although they hold a tenacious grip on the hearts of many women, long-term relationships with bad boys don’t last.

This is my ‘Nice Guy’ Quadrant:

Most guys I’ve come across don’t struggle with being nice, they struggle with creating desire.

They lead the interaction with ‘’safety and comfort’’ which causes women to perceive them through that lens from the start.

The result? Relegated to the friendzone!

Can you escape the friendzone? It’s almost impossible. Once that frame is established, it’s difficult for women to shift their perception of you from ‘’nice’’ to ‘’sexual’’. The mental leap creates a cognitive dissonance.

As strange as trying to sexualize your sibling. Wrong and creepy.

In reality, most men don’t need to become ‘‘nicer’’, they need to work on their ‘’Game’’.

‘‘Game’’ encompasses many qualities like playfulness, tension, desire, mystery, confidence and charisma.

Unsurprisingly, the men who need these skills most are often the ones who reject them for their inauthenticity or ‘’I just want to be myself’’.

To this I would say: while an excess of Game is superficial, not having ANY Game will guarantee your interactions with women will remain firmly platonic.

A skilled craftsman understands each tool in the toolbox serves a different purpose- to carve, sharpen, chisel, saw and decorate.

Relying solely on a single tool limits what you can create.